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Are You For Your Husband?

by Marci Ferrell
Marriage Respect

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20 questions to make the Gospel come alive in your marriage

I came across a great article entitled,  Does your spouse know you are for him/her?  Let me share a list of questions we as wives should be asking ourselves of how we are making the gospel come alive in our marriages from RickThomas.net. 

“The two greatest things that could ever happen to a man is to live in the overflowing awareness of God’s pleasure and to experience his wife’s undeniable affection. One of the most practical ways a wife could live out the Gospel is to practically give it out to her husband.”
~Rick Thomas


20 questions to make the Gospel come alive in your marriage

Paul gives us a way to think about God’s love for us. He does not just say, “God loves you,” he proves it–he shows us. With that in mind, here are some thoughts that will aid you as you think about the Gospel and its practical out-workings toward your husband.

  1. Are you aware of the power you have over your husband?
  2. Do you love your husband?
  3. Do you respect your husband?
  4. Are you quick, ready, and willing to forgive your husband?
  5. Are you quick, ready, and willing to ask him to forgive you?
  6. Do you defer to him, which is one way you can help him to be a better leader?
  7. What is your first thought when you think about your husband? Is it a synonym of love?
  8. Would you be characterized as a nag or an encourager? (This question is talking about your regular patterns, not any one episode. We all have episodes of sin.)
  9. Do you talk negatively about him to others? Is he aware of this?
  10. How would other people describe your attitude and affection for your husband?
  11. Will you ask them–those people who will tell you the truth?
  12. Are you actively loving him, even though he does not deserve your love all the time?
  13. Do you wait to love him after he changes, after he meets your preferences and expectations? (Think Gospel here: How does God treat you? Does He love you after you change or does He love you even when you’re not changing?)
  14. Do you punish your husband when he does not meet your expectations? If so, how do you do it? Anger? Silent treatment? Withhold sex?
  15. How are you humbly leading your husband by your Gospel-motivated example? (I’m talking about leading him by not being out front.)
  16. Has your behavior assisted in pushing your husband toward other people or things? If so, how so?
  17. Will you write out the answers to these questions and begin making a plan for repentance, if you need to repent of anything?
  18. Will you begin thanking God if He has brought sinful attitudes and behaviors to light?
  19. Will you talk to your husband about these things?
  20. Will you ask your husband if he is assured you are for him and then ask him to give you specific examples for why he answered the way he did?
~Above Questions Taken from RickThomas.net  – You can read the entire article here.  (Please note I changed the word spouse where Rick had it to husband since my audience is women.)

 

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  1. Keri at Growing in His Glory says

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    This post is what I needed to read this morning. I’m “battling” with my husband when we need to be working together. I’m not respecting him like I should and it’s evident in the way he’s responding to me. I see it, yet in my pride, I won’t say “I’m sorry” and mean it. Thank you for bringing my sin to light.

    Blessings to you,

  2. Alison Wood says

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    Great list. My husband time adn time tells me the most important thing I can do in our marriage is respect him. If we respect our husbands, many of the other problems go away. If we respect him we won’t belittle or talk about him behind his back. But, first and foremost, we are able to be the wife he needs if we are walking with the Lord. I am pinning this list:)
    Visiting from Pint-sized Treasures

  3. Rosann says

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    Love this list! These questions are marriage saving and important to ask ourselves. It’s not always his fault when things go awry. Sometimes we desperately need to look hard in the mirror.

  4. Our Neck of the Woods says

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    What a great post! I really enjoyed this. Recently we had a series at church on marriage and we touched on a lot of the same topics you have here. It’s a great reminder!

  5. A Proverbs 31 Wife says

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    I love this! Definitely something we all need to work very hard on.
    I would love for you to link this up at Matrimonial Mondays 🙂
    http://aproverbs31wife.com/matrimonial-monday-6/

  6. Judith says

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    The topics you select to blog about are continually an encouragement to me. For some reason, I don’t often find your comment button, so there are many more that I have wanted to thank you for besides this post.

  7. Angie Salinas-Benjamin says

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    @Womanhood With Purpose
    Beautiful, Thanks for sharing this powerful article!

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I know we can all relate to self-pity as women, wi I know we can all relate to self-pity as women, wives, and mothers.  How many times do we focus on our needs that aren’t met?  Unfair situations or circumstances?  Self-pity is a selfish tendency that takes our eyes off Christ and puts them on ourselves.  We forget that “God works all things together for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.” Are we able to give God “thanks in all things”?⁣
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Come take a listen to EP 105: Practical Steps to Overcome Self-Pity at the link in my profile (click on the link under the blue arrows and then this image).
"Your household is the most important schoolroom y "Your household is the most important schoolroom your children will ever know. And the lessons they learn don't begin and end when you crack open the family Bible. They are always watching and learning from your example—often without even realizing it. That's a tremendous responsibility and opportunity for Christian parents—one that we must make the most of, for God's glory and our children's good."⁣
 ~ John MacArthur⁣
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"The visible church is where you will find Christ' "The visible church is where you will find Christ's kingdom on earth, and to disregard the kingdom is to disregard its King."⁣
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Read - Building Loving Relationships In Your Church Family at the link in my bio @thankfuhomemaker (click on the link under the blue arrows and then this image).
Isaiah 48:10:Behold, I have refined you, but not a Isaiah 48:10:Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver;  I have tried you in the furnace of affliction.⁣
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Israel is being refined for the honor and glory of the Lord. I need the reminder that everything the Lord allows in my life is for my good and His glory. All that He does and allows is to further His eternal purposes. ⁣
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He continues to remove the dross from my life in the furnace of affliction, and through each trial and circumstance of my life, the hope is I'm becoming more and more molded and shaped into the image of Christ. ⁣
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Susan Huntington shared on this passage:⁣
"...if our blessed God sees that the disciple, like his Master, must be made perfect through sufferings, ought we not to welcome every means which will conduce to this blessed end? Can we desire to be babes in Christ all our days? If it is a proof of sonship to be chastised, may it not prove a special favor to be greatly chastised? ⁣
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If we were asked what the greatest good is, should we not answer that it is conformity to God? If we were asked what the best circumstances are for the Christian to be placed in, should we not answer that they are those that will, most constantly and most effectually, promote his conformity to God? Shall we then pray for afflictions? By no means. We are weak, and are crushed before the moth. We should not pray for what we do not know that we could bear. ⁣
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We should habitually pray for conformity to God, and quietly leave it to Him to determine by what means He will effect this blessed end."⁣
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-Excerpt taken from my favorite devotional - Seasons of the Heart: A Year of Devotions from One Generation of Women to Another by Donna Kelderman (link to the book is in my profile @thankfulhomemaker - click on the link under the blue arrows, and then this image).
Preaching the gospel to yourself. It's a phrase we Preaching the gospel to yourself. It's a phrase we've all heard, and we all agree with, but deep down, we're like, okay, what does that look like? Or how do I make that practical in my day-to-day life when my marriage is hard? Or the kids are out of control? Or there's an illness in my family, or I'm just stuck in a sinful pattern? Or the house is in chaos, and I don't know where to begin? ⁣
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The reality is we're always saying something to ourselves in our minds, especially in those moments of chaos or difficulty. ⁣
Is what we're speaking to ourselves centered on the truths of God's Word, or are we buying into the lies of the world? ⁣
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This is what we're going to work through together in EP 69: Preaching the Gospel to Yourself - link in my bio @thankfulhomemaker (click on the link under the blue arrows and then this image).
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How many times at church do you find yourself disc How many times at church do you find yourself discussing non-spiritual things? As believers, our relationships with others in the body of Christ are unlike anything non-believers will ever experience. It is such a joy when you come across another Christian that you haven't met before, and because of the common bond of Christ, it is as if you have known them forever.⁣
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I have a favorite book that gets used quite often by Donald S. Whitney called Simplify Your Spiritual Life. In the section, Simplifying our Spiritual Life with Others, he guides us to drive the conversations into the spiritual. Wouldn't we all as believers like our conversations with other believers to be directed towards things related to knowing God, Bible reading and application, theology, evangelism, and prayer, to name a few.⁣
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Thoughts to ponder on the resurrection from John M Thoughts to ponder on the resurrection from John MacArthur:⁣
The basic truth of the resurrection undergirds a number of other truths.⁣
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1. It gives evidence that the Word of God is totally true and reliable. Jesus arose precisely when and in the way He had predicted (see Mt. 12:40; 16:21; 17:9, 23).⁣
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2. The resurrection means that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, as He claimed to be, and that He has power over life and death.⁣
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3. The resurrection proves that salvation is complete, that on the cross Christ conquered sin, death, and hell and rose victorious.⁣
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4. The resurrection proves that the church has been established. Jesus had declared, “I will build My church; and the gates of Hades shall not overpower it” (Mt. 16:8)… His resurrection proved that death itself could not prevent Christ from establishing His church.⁣
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5. The resurrection proves that judgment is coming. Jesus declared that the heavenly Father “has given all judgment to the Son” (Jn. 5:22), and since the Son is now risen and alive, His judgment is certain.⁣
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6. The resurrection of Jesus Christ proves that heaven is waiting. Jesus promised, “In My house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare a place for you” (Jn. 14:2). Because Christ is alive by the resurrection, believers have the assurance that He is now preparing a heavenly dwelling for them.⁣
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