Cherishing Alone Time With Your Husband
Inside: A few honest thoughts on choosing intentional time with your husband.
Estimated reading time: 4 minutes
(This post was originally posted on 6/5/2013 and updated on 3/10/26 .Just a note this was a vacation photo not a business one. I think we need to take more photos together when we’re traveling for his work 😂.)
I’m tagging along this week with my husband on a business trip, and I wanted to share a quick post on enjoying time alone with our husbands.
My husband travels quite frequently for business, and in this season of life the Lord has us in, I’ve been able to go with him more often. I’d love to say it’s always an easy decision and that I jump at every opportunity, but that’s not always the case. I go, but not always with the right heart at first.
It takes work to travel with him on business. The days are long. There’s a lot of alone time sitting in the car between meetings. Sometimes we miss meals (I do like to eat, so that one stretches me a bit, although I’ve learned to pack snacks). Packing and planning for those left at home takes time and effort too. It really is easier to stay home. My selfish, sinful heart naturally leans toward what’s most convenient for me.
Why Do I Go?
Because every time I go, I’m the one who is blessed.
As I meditate on God’s Word and remember to put the needs of others above my own, and that I am my husband’s helper, our time together becomes sweet fellowship. When I pray and ask the Lord how I can serve him and love him well, the opportunities open up. We have conversations we might not otherwise have time for at home.
We share long stretches in the car talking about life and dreams. We read books together, listen to sermons and podcasts (Wretched Radio is always a favorite), and simply enjoy being side by side.
I love eating meals with him so he’s not alone. I love holding his hand. I love being together in the quiet evenings at whatever hotel we land in for the night.
Being Intentional
When you’re blessed with moments alone with your husband, cherish them. Set aside the other cares and concerns and give him your full attention. After the Lord, he is the most important relationship in your life.
It’s so easy to take our husbands for granted. I’m always amazed at how quickly Doug can focus his attention on me, and how much longer it can take me to quiet my mind and do the same for him.
So tonight, after the babies are tucked in and the house grows quiet, give your husband your undivided attention. Let him know how thankful you are for him. Enjoy him. Cherish him. Honor him.
Start today.
The first negative judgment we find in Holy Writ is a judgment on loneliness. God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.”
R.C. Sproul
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Great post!
My husband planned the first date was are having in 2.5 years since our daughter was born. Tonight in particular, I was having anxiety who we are leaving her with (family) just due to personality differences. But she will be well loved… maybe just more screen time than I like.
My husband chose a restaurant 30 min away.
I have been going back and forth about should I say something and ask if we can go somewhere closer? Find someone else to watch her? Etc.
This sweet post showed up just in time. I want to relinquish control and just enjoy what he has for me and leave the rest. My husband is a devoted father an I need to remember that trusting him with these details shows trust in him as a Dad too.
I’m so like Eve sometimes. Something is set and then I have all these thought swirling around when I just need to receive and enjoy!! Thank you for this encouragement 🩷
I love this post! Time alone with our husbands is so important, and I cherish each time we get. Thanks for sharing!
I found this through amamastory.com.
Just found your blog today from DeepRootsatHome. Thanks for this. Sometimes by the end of the day with 3 small children (ages 6,4 and 11 months), I am just TIRED and ready to go to bed myself. It is often hard to find the strength to still be able to minister to my husbands needs. If I am to be completely honest, I find myself almost resenting the fact that he has needs when I am that worn out. Jesus is working on me in that area and I am thankful to have found your blog in my quiet time this morning. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful, loving, God-fearing husband and I am so thankful for him…I must show him that I am. Bless you for your words today. Thank you!